Words

It seems to me that our society has gotten used to saying and doing anything they want because they can always say they are sorry later. It is not that simple.

Harsh words cut people like a knife. "I'm sorry" is like a balm and bandaid. It will heal the cut over time(if the person lets it) but it is not an instant healer. There is still a wound there; it still hurts. Until it heals the words are not forgotten.

Now I could go into forgivness but I am going to stick to words.

I have been saying for several weeks now that "a wise man will measure his words with the consequences and only speak when the the words are found to be just." Words are powerful. They can build up and tear down. Words have ruined marriages, parent/child relationships,reputations, friendships, businesses, communities, countries and what hurts me the most: children, BUT just as words tear down they can also build up.

Words are not an uncontrolable circumstance, we choose our own words. WE ARE RESPONIBLE for what we say. We can choose to vomit our words and clean up later or weigh them carefully and see what we build.

The scripture that comes to mind is: James 1:19-20 (King James Version)
19Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.

New Year

My goal for the new year is for my actions and words to be DELIBERATE.

adjective
1. carefully weighed or considered; studied; INTENTIONAL:
2. characterized by deliberation; careful or slow in deciding: a deliberate decision.
3. leisurely and steady in movement or action; slow and even; unhurried: a DELIBERATE STEP.

–verb (used with object)
4. TO WEIGH IN THE MIND; consider: to deliberate a question.

–verb (used without object)
5. TO THINK CAREFULLYor attentively; reflect: She deliberated for a long time before giving her decision.
6. to CONSULT or confer formally: The jury deliberated for three hours.

I feel 2011 is going to be about CHANGE, COMMITMENT and RENEWAL. That doesn't make me feel excited but something better: Secure and Firmly Planted.

Quick Update

I have not had access to the internet other than my Blackberry since we moved the first time. I did get a laptop for Christmas but until we get internet my posts will be few and far between. Here is a very quick update until next time.

We moved back to Texas in October. My husband was blessed with a job 2 business days after we arrived. Thank You, Jesus!!! God has blessed us so much since arriving back. We are looking forward to our future. Hopefully my next post will be a little longer. I have a few thoughts that I want to share with you but maybe I can post them next time. Love you all!!

Moving!!

My husband is officially the Pastor of the First United Pentecostal Church of Theodore, AL. WE'RE MOVING!!!!!!

Why I don't like Forums

I have been trying to finish the series that I started but I have been so busy so I decided to go ahead and give you the titles and a very brief description of each.

Words Have Meaning- A lot of times people just spout off things not fully understanding there meaning.

No Immediate Conseqeunces- When you say something to someone sitting right in front of you, you immediately reap something from the words that you have just spoken. It could be excitement, hurt or a punch in the nose. If you are communicating over the internet there are no such rewards therefore no real restrictions.

Long Term Consequences- One word: REPUTAION


Let me clarify: I am mostly talking about political and religous forums.

Now maybe I can feel like I finished something I started that really didn't matter in the first place. LOL :)

Why I Don't Like Forums Part I Tone of Voice

When you are reading you loose something very important: Tone Of Voice.

For example, if I said "sit down, please" my tone of voice would give you the full meaning of my words. I could say "sit down, please" through gritted teeth and you would know that I was angry and that my request was really a demand. If I said it with a sing song tone you would know I am happy and I am requesting you to sit. I could also say it in a sincere tone of voice and my tone would let you know that it would be my honor for you to sit down.

Tone of voice is just as important to your conversation as your words.

Part II to come shortly. :) My tone of voice: Respectfully Soft

Quote of The Week

"Salvation is not just a Fire Escape!"
-Bro. White